Subjective Honesty and the Bi-Product of Altruism
It transcends reason, yet it is thoroughly in reality, in our lives. Why would a person commit themselves to a life of helping others, without any personal gain; without any material, physical, and perhaps emotional or psychological gain? Perhaps there is something which goes beyond gain and wants and needs and all that comes with them; in a moment, or a year, of altruism, these people assist others when they get stuck in the mire of their efforts for accomplishment. They are affirmed. Perhaps altruism has threads in every day life, some that we do not notice.
Thoughts seem almost material; it has been this way. Not in a delusional way, but in that they are taken as seriously as material objects. When someone holds a debate, they do not only discuss concepts and abstract ideas without descriptions. They can include houses and colors, a forest, perhaps, a lockbox. These thoughts come from a source and have meaning in context. A stimuli. Thoughts converted to words, take imagination into reality. Sometimes that imagination can be vivid, too vivid.
I have shared all of my secrets with different people, under hardwood floors, or dirt laden. Circumstances have never been completely honest, in the sense that, we were doing dishonest things and thinking in falsehood. Yet, I could tell to someone very close, any lie I had ever spoken, I could be honest about my secrets. Honest about things that, in the end, mostly hurt me, especially in the long term.
Is honesty a bi-product of altruism? Certainly, someone who is altruistic has no obligation to be honest. And, it may not have anything to do with the topic of concern. This is different from deception, cheating, or deceit. All of those go against the causes of altruism, because they intentionally or as in part hurt someone else. Honesty is subjective, in many cases. Are you being honest when you tell a soldier where you are hiding refugees? Or are you honest when you defend your character and all that you believe by telling him there is no one there. The latter is honest to yourself and people you help. The former is honest towards anyone at any time.
So, what is honesty? It does not seem to have a clear definition when used in the world and away from a dictionary. Everyone seems to have their own idea of honesty, even in the minute circumstances. White lies, lying to avoid personal injury, lying to avoid getting caught and possibly getting help, lying to yourself and remaining in denial. Lying originates from something other than the act itself. It arises from gossip, which can be either focused on the individual, or the topics surrounding the individual.
“Every time I got close to someone, we got really close. I knew secrets that probably few people knew.” “Yeah.” “At first it felt like I had to protect them, like they were fragile. “Then something would take over, like a euphoric high of self-destruction that told me this person was unsafe. “So I made it seem like they were less than me.